3 Ways To Get Valuable Marketing Intel On Your Ideal Clients

You may already have an ideal client for your business, but the question remains, “How do I attract them and get them to hire me?”. The answer to that question varies depending on who you’re attracting because it’s rooted in psychology. Every person wants, values, and cares about different things, but when you go into investigator mode and look for marketing intel, you can find the patterns that connect your best clients. From there, you can use what you learn in your marketing and attract more and more of these people to you. Here are 3 ways to get valuable marketing intel on your ideal clients.




Marie Burns Holzer is a wedding officiant who went through my process of getting laser-focused on your ideal client. When she was honing in on her ideal client, it occurred to her that she should look to see what the couples she loved working with most said about her in their reviews.


Why? Because one of the qualities she knew she wanted in a client was that they would rave about the service she offered.


Marie started going through all of her reviews on Yelp, Facebook, WeddingWire, and The Knot to see what they had in common. A vision became clear. Her couples often don’t know what they’re doing when it comes to planning their perfect wedding ceremony, but they want a wedding that is personal and fun. They are often spiritual but not religious or are an interfaith couple. Before she knew it, she had three ideal client types that she could use to categorize her favorite couples! Since gaining clarity on who these people are, over 80% of her clients fit into one of these three ideal couple types and, as a result, she is a lot happier in her work.


Identifying her ideal clients was a big change for Marie because, like many wedding professionals, she started with basically anyone who would book her. She now looks back and reflects,


“I remember when you first started talking about your ideal client, and a light bulb just went off! I couldn’t believe that I had just been throwing my net hoping to catch anything without realizing how ineffective that was.


It also resonated with me because I was listening to you teach this while I was driving home from a wedding that was the opposite of my ideal client. I didn’t feel connected to the couple, and while they seemed happy enough with the ceremony, I felt empty when I left their celebration, which is NOT how I normally leave a wedding.


I was upset and listening to you tell me that I needed to target my ideal client specifically was revelatory!”


When you look back at your reviews, think about who the people were that wrote them. What are they like as people and what do they have in common?




Study the sites that your ideal client loves to see what’s popular, what they’re writing about, and how they’re marketing. If you know that your ideal bride buys 90% of her clothing from Anthropologie, although that’s not directly related to weddings, we’re looking at her as a whole person, so it most certainly matters. Visit the Anthropologie site and observe how are they talking about the products that they’re selling. What makes them so appealing? Suddenly, by playing investigator, you can pull from these other areas of their lives to use in your marketing.


I recently gave a presentation on this topic to a group of wedding professionals, and one of them perked up and said: “I’m so happy you said that because I know that every single bride I work with is a huge Kate Spade fanatic.” If you’re not familiar, Kate Spade makes high-end handbags and accessories, so suddenly she knew exactly where to look for inspiration on the tone and messaging for her brides.


If you don’t know what brands your clients love, ask them. You can also refer to your Audience Insights in the Facebook Ads Manager to see what other pages your fans like.




It may sound scary, but by asking your best clients questions and listening, you can uncover marketing gold that will help you attract more clients just like them.


I’m going to give you some questions to ask during the interview, but your job is to be an investigator. Think about the way T.V. investigators, inspectors, and detectives handle things when they’re doing an investigation. They ask a lot of questions and based on the information they receive, they ask follow-up questions.


Interviewing is about listening and digging for more information. It’s easy, especially if you like the people you are interviewing (and you probably do because you want to work with more of them). But, for this interview, you’re going to do a lot more listening than you are talking. You’re going to ask a question, and then you’re going to shut up and listen intently.


There are a lot of different questions you can ask for a lot of different reasons and I go into those in my book, Clone Your Best Clients, but these will get you started:


  • We all geek out on something, what do you geek out about?
  • How would your best friend or your partner describe you? (This is an especially good one because it requires people to step outside their normal frame of reference for themselves.)
  • How did you find me?
  • Where did you look for your wedding vendors?
  • What made you choose to work with me instead of another X?
  • Why did you decide to go with <whatever product or service they purchased>?


Marketing is based on psychology and these questions will give you insight into how this person makes decisions and why they do what they do. Understanding that is going to show you what you need to do in order to attract more people just like them. Your future clients will feel like you’re a mind reader, except you don’t have to read minds to do it.


I know that getting inside the head of your ideal client can be hard work. That’s why I wrote Clone Your Best Clients. It’s a book that shows you how to better understand your very best clients and attract more clients just like them. If you want to work with more of your ideal clients and take the guesswork out of your marketing, this book is for you. You can get the Kindle version for just $.99 from May 9th-12th and if you purchase the book before May 23rd and forward your receipt to heidi@evolveyourweddingbusiness.com, you’ll get access to a readers-only Q&A with me where you can ask any questions you have. Pick up your copy of Clone Your Best Clients at www.evolveyourweddingbusiness.com/clone!

More about Keneshia

Keneshia also known as Kay a Southern California native & A Bay Area transplant and the Founder of Enchanted : The Wedding Event . She is the Lady Boss and Editor in Chief of Blissful 2 Be, Wedding Magazine, weddings & event designer and the VP of Wed Biz for WedTech Summit. A wedding and technology conference were the wedding and technology communities come together to educate each other about the wedding space and how we can grow together.With a strong background in planning and design she works to collaborate, and celebrate vendors . Kay is a speaker & educator and works with vendors, on how to grow and succeed in the wedding business and stay authentic during the process. More about us over at Blissfulcreativesedu.com

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